5 Things I Wish I Had Learned Earlier In My Life?

 

[This is a guest post from Darija Zubić]

My dear friend Abubakar (Nickname Sunny) asked me to write this post for his life-lessons series, and I promised him that I will.

Days were passing, I was thinking and thinking about everything I wish I had known earlier in my life and he was waiting and waiting and now he doesn’t have to wait anymore.

Oh, I could count so many mistakes in so many different situations which I wish I’d never have made in my past, and that I’d have known better at the time.

Here are the 5 biggest mistakes that I am sharing with you.

1. I wish I knew that some of my unnecessary and impulsive actions can hurt other people really bad.

2. I wish I knew that true self esteem comes from within and I don’t need outside validation to feel at ease with myself.

3. I wish I knew that there is no other good cause to enter any relationship but love, and love can not be forced upon anyone.

4. I wish I knew that if I finish my college earlier I could get a job in science career.

5. I wish I knew that my strong urges to do something had their very valid reasons and if I had just listened to those voices from within me, I would be living a completely different life right now.

And on the flip side (as there is a flip side to everything in life), now that I know better, I sit down again and contemplate on my mistakes from a very different perspective.

Now that I know that my unnecessary and impulsive actions have hurt other people in the past, I also understand that other people can hurt me without any actual intention to do so, and without even knowing that they are hurting me. So now I can forgive them.

Now that I know that true self esteem comes from within me, I empathize with people who try to base their self esteem on outside factors and I hope that they learn the lesson which I learned sooner than I did.

Now that I know that there is no other reason to be in a relationship except love I understand and appreciate the feeling of love more than ever and I can now muster up the courage to forgive my loved ones who don’t know any better.

Now that I know that love cannot be forced upon anyone, I feel for the people who try to force their love on someone because they will never succeed in their efforts and will get hurt in the process.

Now that I know that if I had finished my college earlier and got job a in a science career I would never have gained such varied experience in all domains of my profession.

But who knows, maybe tomorrow I realize that I actually did listen to every one of my urges in some mysterious, twisted and esoteric way, and that all the things that happened in my life, happened for the right reasons, at the right time for my highest good.

So in the end, I finally conclude that I don’t feel sorry for anything in my life. I learned a lot from every mistake I made (how else I might have learned anyway) and more so from the mistakes that I really wish I wouldn’t have made.

I do have all kind of feelings about those mistakes but, no, I do not wish that I’d have known better…

Mistakes are, after all, the foundations of truth, and if a man does not know what a thing is, it is at least an increase in knowledge if he knows what it is not.

-Carl Jung on Mistakes

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About the Author

Darija Zubić is a 32 years old blogger from Croatia trying to merge her passion for personal development with her profession as a psychologist. You can find her on her Facebook Page.

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